Why is he not calling and what you can do about it. Attachment Theory

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Are you stuck in an unequal relationship that displays any of these characteristics:

– He doesn’t follow up with contact
– He doesn’t initiate enough or give you enough attention
– He isn’t expressing his feelings but you can tell he has them
– You find yourself in cycles of push/pull, hot/cold, chase/run

I highly recommend this book on attachment theory. It discusses each of the types and how to best deal with their behaviorial issues.

It talks about both perspectives, why you are stuck having feelings for this person who doesnt give you enough love back and why they are pulling away, occasionally coming back to string you along. While there may be deeper metaphysical issues as well which we can discuss in a reading here : www.feathersinfinity.com, this book does give some great pointers on what to heal as well as how to react to your love interest. Sometimes knowing why they are acting this way helps us to react less emotionally and take it less personally.

The books discusses 3 types, the anxious, the stable and the avoidant.

In summary (we can be a mix of any 3 of these):

  • The anxious – This person is always wondering why he doesnt call, why he doesnt initiate the dates or contact enough, and feels they are constantly chasing someone who does not show enough appreciation for them. However they find themselves in love with the other party, stuck in an unending cycle, hoping he’ll change. Often times lack of action from their love interest ruins their day or part of their day and can be a source of anxiety for the person.
  • Avoidant – An avoidant personality wants to maintain their independence, is afraid of getting hurt but tries not to show it, and often pulls away for a time until they miss a person and then pop back into the love interests life when they feel ready. They are consistantly inconsistant, they think people should hide their emotions and have difficulty expressing themselves. They have deep feelings too but try to push them away and control them due to lack of trust.
  • Stable – This is the personality type that we hope to achieve, a good balance of empathy to know when your partner needs affection and attention, expressing their own emotions and is able to be more vulnerable on a healthy way with their partner. Stable people can be with all 3 personalities because they have the wisdom and empathy to understand the others’ point of view and can tend to their needs without as much emotional turmoil.
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Elementals Series I: The Fire King

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I was visited by an elemental king of fire the other day. He’s been making himself known pretty prominently for the past couple days. So during my next reading I asked what he is responsible for or what he helps out with. I felt a warm sensation on my face and on my arms so through a series of questions I found out that they can warm an area or body part such as when we get upset, embarrassed or angry we’ll feel our face get warm or prickly (fire elementals specifically). I also asked if they’re responsible for creating many of the sensations throughout my body I’ve been experiencing since I took Reiki and I saw clairvoyantly that all the Elementals have something to do with the sensations we feel. When I asked to be cooler during a hot part of the day I first asked for water and that didn’t quite do it. Then I saw the word “air”, so I asked for air and then I cooled down. As the years have gone by I have clairvoyantly seen as well as intuitively received that some of these feelings are controlled by elementals and nature spirits. Over the years I would ask about different sensations and the answers were consistently elementals or nature spirits rather than my angels. For a week or two after this meeting I wanted to know more about what Elementals do to help us out. After looking through some sources of information seems like they clean up a lot of negative energy in different areas on Earth. In a reading I asked why are they creating some of these unusual sensations such as prickling, warming, heaviness and I received that they wish to help out. One way they can help out is by allowing us to feel the blocks and imbalances that need to be healed by creating some of these sensations in our body and around us. Affirmations, meditation and energy healing such as theta, crystals and Reiki can remove those blocks and imbalances. Energetic blocks can be indicators of what beliefs you have about yourself and the world around you as well as the chakras/meridians/energy fields that need to be cleansed or healed. Know that this is only part of what they do to help us raise our vibration. Use it as an indication that something is out of balance and get your metaphysical tool belt out to clear some stuff out. As we heal, we raise our vibration.

Common issues:

Fatigue – Wow, this can be multiple things. The simplest answer I can give you is clear the root chakra, or carry a red stone in your pocket. The root chakra seems to be one of the major energy boosting centers. Also imagine red energy in your legs down to your feet while exercising, I’ve noticed this gives me an energy boost. Fatigue could also be someone else’s energies stuck in your energy field. In this case say mentally this is not me and the energy will go away. If it is a block, do a clairsentient body scan and see where the energy is concentrated, then clear chakras and meridians on the spot as well as above and below. The other common reason is lack of enthusiasm, use affirmations for this (“I am enthusiastic about life”, “Love and Joy runs through my arteries and veins”) because sometimes we have to do things we aren’t always thrilled with.

Mental slowness, lack of mental clarity – First check both sides of your throat including the area where the spinal cord meets the skull. Also check chakras in the middle of your head, behind the nose and in the back of your mouth. Second, Ground! Do a great grounding including grounding the back chakras, each of your joints in arms, shoulders and legs. Grounding helps with mental clarity and focus when out of a reading.

Here is a summary of solutions to clear some of the discomfort, fatigue or blocks:

1. Apprecition – say out loud what you appreciate, even if it is materialistic, like “I appreciate my bed, I appreciate my TV, I appreciate the beach…”

2. Mediation with crystals – I highly recommend full chakra sets with grounding stones for your legs. I practice what I preach and sell full sets which include stones for your legs and feet (go here: www.ebay.com/usr/all1059). The additional leg stones can help with anxieties, stress and help you have a more clear flow of energy. I have seen no one else provide a full chakra set which includes feet and knee chakra stones. They really make a difference.

3. Affirmations – Louise Hay has a book, “How to heal your life” that gives you affirmations for the areas where you feel discomfort. Also there are many affirmations on the internet if you google “knee pain affirmation”.

4. Energy healing – Crystals, theta or Reiki as well as many other modalities can help you restore balance and peace.

I saw in my reading that elementals and nature spirits would like to be known for what they do to help. They help us throughout the day, either by being our guides through feelings as well as cleaning up the energy around us. An excellent way to feel better is to take a walk outside in nature and you’ll instantly realize how much better the energy is. The other thing I saw clairvoyantly in my reading clearly when I was asking about fire Elementals was lightning. After perusing some of the sources about Elementals I saw them mention lightning as well. I read that fire Elementals might be responsible for much of the energy around us including lightning. One particular source said that they may be responsible for the energy even within our atoms. They also may help with energizing your crystals and stones.

If you have fears concerning elementals and nature spirits due to fairy tales or movies as a child (many of us do), I recommend affirming to yourself that they are kind and always visualize them as such. If something feels wrong assume it is not them, ask and visualize your archangels removing the offending party or energy. If you need more proof that they are here to help go outside on a nice day and see how much better you feel being in nature. I have additional information on how to connect with and notice nature spirits / elements in other blogs on this site or you can sign up for a reading with me to find out more on my psychic mediumship page: www.feathersinfinity.com.

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Budgets and Financial Abundance practical tips

Some people find it difficult to dig themselves out of old habits, particularly when it comes to not keeping within their budgets so they can save money. With any habit or lifestyle change it helps to have an easy monitoring system so you can track your progress regularly. When you first begin, monitoring for weight loss is done daily, for budgets it is best to be done daily & weekly until you have a rhythm then you can go monthly.

I have a spreadsheet I look at daily where I track how much I spent that day, then it totals for the week and month. Before you start tracking you need goals and limits you are trying to achieve. To figure out what goals and limits you should have to track you need to look at your past “actuals”, which is essentially what you’ve actually spent in the past few months. You can go back, 3, 6, or 12 months and take an average based on category; categories being groceries, gas, utilities, entertainment, etc. You do this by downloading all your statements from your checking, credit cards and anything else expenses would come out of or go on. After you have all your statements on Excel (often downloaded as *.csv files), separate them by month and combine them in a spreadsheet, all you need is the transaction date, description and the amount. In the next column assign a category such as income, gas, groceries, restaurant etc. Once that is all filled in for each category you can do one of two things based on your Excel expertise. You can filter by month, then by category and sum the amount for that category, saving that number to the side. Or, you can create a pivot table, by month, category and then amount (recommended). With this information you can average by month what you spend on each category. Then create a budget or a standard from which to compare your actuals with every month. If you find that you are spending more than you are making, adjust your budget accordingly but realistically. Typical areas easy to cut are restaurants, groceries, entertainment and clothes. Once you have you plan in place, start a spreadsheet in a place where you will see it everyday, on your cell, your laptop, or at work. Put at the top the categories you need to monitor (not utilities or non-variable expenses like rent, just variable non-essential spending) then list every day what you spend in each appropriate category. Sum by day and by week.

Once you start doing this you can catch yourself at an earlier period of time when you are overspending in a certain category such as going out to eat or clothes. Then you know by let’s say Wednesday that you need to stop going out to eat because you’ve reached your limit for that week on restaurant expenses. At this time I find that I usually get more creative or I start appreciating more of what I already have and own. Particularly what it comes to groceries you can get creative in the kitchen and start mixing and matching what you already have at home. This also helps you spend more time with what you’ve already bought if you’re one of those people who buys things because they interest you at the time but don’t really use them or appreciate them after you’ve brought them home. At the end of the month you will feel much better about how you’re doing financially, your credit card bills will not be much of a surprise and you’ll feel more in control of your expenses.

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Empathy modes, dealing with your clairsentience

There are few books out there, but not many, that tell you how to best deal with your clairsentience. Especially those of us that went through Reiki 2 and became Reiki Masters the additional energy we feel and information we receive can be TMI sometimes. There is one thing I do in the morning and that is I ask my energies, and yes I talk directly to my energies, to not feel the negative energy in the environment around me, the spiritual beings with vibrations less than my angels and guides around me, the EMF, static electricity, radiation around me, or the people’s energy around me for the next 24 hours. End in please and thank you for intention. Usually I wait for some sort of acknowledgement such as a green check mark clairvoyantly or a change in my feelings. When doing this you’re still intuitive and your angels can help you out to keep you safe and protected but you don’t need to feel everything around you at all times to be safe.

The other thing I recommend is to go into what I call “Modes”. These are essentially different grounding methods depending on the situation you’re about to enter or be in. Ask God to put you in these modes before you engage in each of these activities.

Reading Mode – after I’m done with a reading as well as when I wake up in the morning I ask God to take me out of reading mode. This makes me less sensitive to the energies around me that I don’t really need to be feeling and helps you feel more grounded and safe. I also find that you’re automatically put into reading mode once you ask God to help you do a reading so I don’t feel like you have to ask to be put in reading mode but I do ask to be taken out of it in the best highest way for me. End with please and thank you for intention.

Travel mode – for any of you in the metaphysical fields that can feel the EMF, static electricity, and radiation around you, planes and airports are not always fun. However, I was told intuitively or clairvoyantly to ask to be put into travel mode before I go on my trip. When I did this I became even more grounded then when I ask to be taken out of reading mode. I can also focus more and have more mental clarity. This is essentially “super ground” you so you’re not feeling everybody’s “stuff” and not as fearful.

Corporate or Work mode – if you have found after your spiritual awakening and Reiki training you can focus less at work and you feel more fatigued this is because you’re feeling the negative energy in the environment around you, as well as all the energy coming from electronics. You don’t need all of this information and it really is TMI not to mention it disrupts your attention span. I would highly recommend asking God to put you in some sort of “work mode”, it could even be the travel mode shown above, so you can focus more at work and have more mental clarity. Also people around you irritate you less as you really don’t need that information. Sometimes their energy maybe off for reasons that have nothing to do with work and may have to do with their personal life so it’s not always useful information.

You will still have your intuition in any of these modes. Don’t forget to use affirmations on intelligence and mental clarity for an additional boost in these areas.

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Cleansing your energy fields

Ever feel a little funky after leaving a store or coming from outside? Most likely your aura and energy fields need to be cleansed. This procedure is pretty easy.

First imagine angels or God removing all the energy from inside your body. They place what was removed in a large vat of green healing energy and it turns green. Then replace your body with green healing energy. Then repeat the same procedure for each layer of your field around you, one closest to you, then the middle, then the outer ring. If you see any black, brown, red or orange spots still after that have them removed and replaced.

This is also very useful if you do psychic mediumship. Think of it as your windshield and you want to see & feel clearly out of it every once and a while make sure it sparkles.

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Crossing Over

I wanted to share a few experiences with helping someone to cross over to the other side. I’ve done this a few times, but this one I kept track of more after I received signs that they had crossed. I had one recently where someone had died 30 years ago and still haven’t fully crossed over yet. We will call them “Sam” for the rest of the blog to help keep this person’s anonymity. There was a trauma involved with their death. When they are Earthbound I usually see them surrounded by grey, black or orange energy depending on where they are. For someone who committed suicide there was black energy and I’ve only seen that once so far. The one that committed suicide was able to cross over after asking for help for them. In Sam’s case the person was surrounded by an orange color. Those that are crossed over are usually surrounded by the color white, green, or blue. So I did as I usually do, I asked for Jesus, Archangel Michael, and Archangel Azrael to help that person crossover in the best and highest way for them. It seems to happen very quickly when I do this using the Theta healing modality as I can watch them do it in a matter of minutes when I ask these three to help them out. When I asked this time I heard something like “well that’s very nice but… ” like they had something that they were still attached to or didn’t want to leave. So I saw clairvoyantly that they crossed over very quickly and I received the signs shortly thereafter that they had crossed over, in this case, with butterflies right outside my bedroom window in the morning. Once they were crossed over and a few days had passed I would check up on them every once in awhile see how they were doing. Honestly, one of the first things that was explained to me from Sam was that there were buildings in the distance and I saw Clairvoyantly the buildings behind them. I asked if they could walk into the buildings and meet some people and they said no they are private. I asked during my next reading my Archangels, Jesus, and God what were these buildings? I received that they were “private residences”. I would continue to talk to “Sam” about various things that he would ask me. It was explained to me that Sam wanted to get to work right away, after crossing over but would need some healing as well as training on how to heal himself. After some time, I would say in about a few weeks, Sam was more happy, taking some time out to play and more confident in their abilities to help others. When they first crossed over I got that he wanted to be my guardian and I was more concerned with him taking care of himself and being happy after all these years of being in this “middle land”. Overtime, I found he also wanted to help out the country that he had his last job in. I asked in a reading why even though he was crossed over why he wasn’t instantly happy, and I received the answer that he wanted to work right away but he didn’t completely know everything yet as far as how to take care of himself energetically, that he felt guilty for being happy and still was figuring out what he could do on the other side. Apparently it takes time for some of us to adjust after we’ve even crossed over to figure out how to use the energies and powers that we are given (kind of on earth too) I thought this was actually pretty interesting and I thought I might share it with the rest of the group just in case you were interested in the process of crossing over. It probably only took one night after I asked for them to cross over for them to appear in my dreams very clearly and to send me a message. So they do have some abilities once they cross over but I do feel and see that there’s still a process after they’ve crossed over where they’re learning all the things they can do as well as learning to take care of themselves.

When you love someone so strongly and they don’t love you back

I was going through a reading and I was reminded of situations where someone will see through to someone’s soul and love them so completely but the other person does not feel the same. It was shown to me clairvoyantly and intuitively what happens. Essentially the one that falls hard and feels the unconditional love for the other person sees straight through all the outer facades, layers, thoughts about self, egos and into their soul. It was explained to me that the soul is more pure and without much of the other cultural facades we put up to fit in. It is essentially a soul loving another soul, piercing through all that other stuff. Unfortunately (or fortunately, I dunno, it smarts) for me this has happened multiple times where I see through people, see their potential when they do not. Thank goodness, the most recent time it happened, I was able to recover very quickly, let go and move on better. Note that I’ve been doing energy healing for years and working on myself, I know this isn’t easy without those tools. However, what I did was express my feelings quickly rather than tucking them away for years. Once I got the feelings out, I felt infinitely better (this doesnt mean they’ll be mutually interested btw, they are probably not seeing as deeply as you). The reasoning I saw during a reading for someone else was that they were not doing the same, essentially not seeing through to the soul and experiencing the same level of feelings. This happens a lot, it’s not just you and me. I know this because I do readings most days. If you can’t express your feelings to the other person because of fear of rejection (it really helps to work on this – contact me for theta healing. It affects more than just relationships) then write your feelings down and burn them if you don’t feel it will work out for one reason or another. Then pray and ask God to help you move on in the best and highest way for you. Ask God for the suffering to stop. Know that the lesson in these cases, that I have received in my readings, is to know that we are all connected, to become closer to the Divine and spirituality.

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